I can’t thank Claire enough for everything she has done for me. This journey started off by testing to see if BWRT, as a last resort, could finally see me stop smoking! I only managed to previously stop for pregnancy and when my babies were babies. Stress began and it wasn’t long before I was smoking again and nothing I tried could stop me. It was my break, my 5 minutes peace from a hectic life. I didn’t think anything would work. One session of BWRT and I’ve never smoked since. Not only that, I’ve not wanted to! It’s like I never smoked to begin with and I love being a non-smoker now.
Due to the success of this, I went back to Claire for some more help. I was struggling at home with my family life. My little girl has an attachment disorder, I have a very dependent breastfed 1 year old and little outside help.
Due to the nature of my little girl’s attachment disorder, she really needs me to remain calm throughout each storm but I was struggling! I tried everything, talking therapies, CBT, EMDR, meditation, yoga, self-care etc...but it wasn’t shifting. I still felt out of control with my emotions.
I remembered how Claire described BWRT and decided to get in touch to see if it could help. We decided to go for the more intense, 5 week course. I’m about to have my last session next week and I have to say, I can’t believe the difference it’s made. The things that usually overwhelm me, seem a breeze. I still get overwhelmed but I seem to be able to stay calm and collected and find the right responses that my little girl needs. I feel happy! I have really good, happy days now, which shows me how miserable I obviously was before I started the therapy.
I really can’t recommend this therapy and Claire as a therapist, enough!
Public Speaking Confidence
With thanks to Jemma
I wanted to share some feedback on the results I've had since the BWRT® session in October. I had a problem at work which massively knocked my confidence dealing with customers. I had taken around a month off during summer as the work event (a customer complaint about me) triggered an episode of acute anxiety and depression. I spent time at home and had some talking therapy and slowly was phased back into work. However, I was keeping up a pretty decent façade of confidence and competence while secretly, deep down doubting my own ability to do my job and interact with customers. On returning to work I had to speak at a large meeting with around 20 doctors at a hospital. Perhaps I wasn't ready to return to work but the meeting was very negative. I was on edge, very defensive and also just very scared despite this kind of meeting being something I had been doing at work for the last 20 years! I stumbled over words, repeated myself several times and basically delivered a fairly useless presentation and retreated from the room crushed. My big return to work had been deflated by this self perpetuating belief that I was not credible, knowledgeable or able to speak to customers anymore.
The BWRT® session was where things changed. I rememberd that negative meeting, with all the doctors bemused eyes on me as I waffled my way through some clinical info and hurriedly retreated to the corridor disappointed and dejected. During the session you suggested the scene I had remembered be changed to how I would like it to be. I thought of myself in the same room with the same people yet feeling calm, delivering a very clear message and feeling nonchalant about even being there, instead focusing my attention on the content of the presentation I was giving. It seemed too simple. However as the session was happening I felt very new physical sensations like tingling in my hands and legs, a sense of warmth and I also cried. I wasn't upset so much as needing an emotional release. I knew that something was changing right then. Immediately afterward I felt lighter and quite relieved of a burden.
So what has changed in the last few months? In some ways not much and in some ways, everything. I have now been in front of internal company colleagues and customers in both one to one meetings and larger meetings. The overall sense I have now in my customer interactions now is 'nonchalance'. This sounds negative. For me it isn't! I'm naturally a very highly strung, excitable character. So what I need is a dose of calmness. I now feel nonchalant about being in the situation where I am aware of my nerves with a customer and being in the same space as them with the attention being on me. Now I feel very focused on what they are saying and in control of the responses I am able to give. This is allowing my attention to be centred around the discussions we are having. I feel more in control and present in the room with people. The change has been quite significant and In the most weirdly subtle yet dramatic and impactful way, I've allowed myself to be the person I always looked up to at work. Confident and capable.